You'd probably give anything if you could change your current reality. To wake up tomorrow morning and find everything the way it was...comfortable and familiar. It's not the way life works though. So, when you are trying to mend a broken relationship, you need to take care of yourself before you can take care of anything else. Once that's done, you can begin to restore your relationship family get together paragraph.
A confident, cheerful attitude is the first objective you need to tackle. Let me run the old "experts say" by you first. They say, and it's true, an optimistic, confident attitude can turn amazingly hopeless situations into positive, promising ones. It might seem hard to be cheerful and confident following a breakup, but you can do it! Did you ever see the movie "A Christmas Story?" In my favorite scene, Ralphy was dreaming about his revenge for having his mouth washed out with soap. His day-dream was that he came back to visit his parents after he had gone blind. His wonderful, vengeful delight was that they were tormented because "soap poisoning" had caused him to go blind. Great scene.
But, it's the dream of a child. Let's be adults here...man up! Your feelings can lie to you. If you act as if you are confident (instead of walking around gloomy) you'll soon feel more confident. Keep the depression out of your demeanor. Women dislike men who are desperate, clingy or needy. Allow her to see that you are strong and more than capable of handling this situation. Show her that you are also capable of surviving very well on your own. Eliminating tension and stress in your life will make this task easier. One way to accomplish this is to accept the breakup. By accepting this current reality, you stop fighting against it and can begin to work with it. Another way to accomplish a confident, cheerful attitude is to find ways to keep yourself occupied and happy. And that brings us to your second objective.
You need to remain socially active. Surround yourself with well wishers, supportive family, and good friends. Let your ex see that people appreciate you, and that they love being with you. Entertain at home, be available for group activities. As more people begin to feel good about your presence in their lives, your ex will begin to see you in a whole new light. It will give her an opportunity to remember what a good person you are, and wonder why she is about to let you go. So remember the lesson in the previous paragraph, and do the opposite of what you are feeling. Do you feel like hiding in your bed and crying all day? Ignore that tendency! Get together will family or friends instead. But, before you head out the door, make your third objective your new code to live by.
You must maintain a good appearance; there is no option! Do not let your appearance reflect your emotional state. Pay attention to every detail of your looks. Your hair, your clothes, your shoes. Even the way you walk, your posture and the tone of your voice convey your mood and feelings. And, it goes without saying, but I'll say it anyway. Shower and brush your teeth every day. There's no question that it can be hard to take care of yourself following a bad breakup. But, this is one of the best ways you can let your ex know that you are doing just fine. Do not use a rumpled appearance to beg for her sympathy (remember Ralphy)! If you are going to get back together, get back together like an adult who is mature and responsible. If you always look your best, she will notice, and will respond positively.
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